Just a refugee

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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • Thanks for your reply. I appreciate your personal take on the whole thing. As someone who has never been fat, I’m trying to figure out what’s the whole deal with the various movements around it. I feel it’s gonna become a much bigger cultural discussion in the next decade. And congrats on getting down to a happier weight for you! Setting and reaching goals is definitely something to be celebrated.



  • I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot lately and your comment is interesting. Your first sentence is definitely phrased in a more controversial way than the rest of your comment, but I can’t help seeing it as very similar to “Being depressed is a choice the vast majority of the time, and I have a huge bias against depressed people.” Is that an unfair comparison?

    I know that treating fatness/obesity as a disease is kinda controversial but I feel like folks give people dealing with mental health a lot more grace than people dealing with health issues related to being fat. I’ve also heard that for some people they can be perfectly healthy at a higher weight (though this is clearly not the case for many fat people who are seeing health impacts). I guess I’m assuming that a lot of fat people would potentially like to be less so, but can’t (for any number of reasons) quite get there. This seems really similar for me to people dealing with depression, anxiety, etc who want to change things but keep falling back into the problem.

    I guess my question is do you have bias against people who can’t escape other bad cycles like mental health or even stuff like alcoholism? Or is it more just that you think it’s fair to judge people without the discipline/willpower to get out of a state they didn’t want to be in, like you did.


  • I like Commander.

    I’m not the first to say this, but it is definitely unfortunate that Commander has become a lot of people’s introduction to Magic - it is strategically incredibly complicated, takes a long time to understand if you don’t know all the staple cards, the meta and unspoken rules are completely socially dependent, and there’s lots of politics - these are all really difficult for players who are new to Magic or a game store or a social group.

    That being said, I think Commander is the most fun format for established players who have a consistent playgroup that creates an ongoing culture. The options are limitless, really, so everyone can express themselves through deck construction. The other way I’ve really loved Commander is in explicitly competitive formats, like budget leagues or tournaments with set-in-stone rules. If the rules are known up front then everyone knows that LD, Stax, or combos are on the table and salt is just clearly bad sportsmanship. You can’t really avoid poor sports in any game, unfortunately.