• UnRelatedBurner@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    Idk if it’s how I was raised or smth. But I don’t get how can that come off as offensive (or similar) in any way.

    A: “Oh hey you got a little choc on the side of your mouth”

    B: “Fuck you, how dare you? I hate you now. Do not ever talk to me again”

    I just simply don’t see this happening, ever. If it’s a stranger and you start the convo with this then you might not be on good terms, caz it’s super wierd. But to a friend, lover, colleague, boss, manager I only see an outcome where they thank you, or worst case just turn away, act shy and clean it off.

    Anyways. This wasn’t what you were asking. If they are scratching their nose, just let them(?). Like what harm does it cause you? Maybe they are sick, allegic, or feel dirty or itchy, it’s probly best to act like you didn’t even notice it :/

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      5 months ago

      A: “Oh hey you got a little choc on the side of your mouth”

      B: “Oh, thanks”

      B (in their head): “Oh no, how embarrassing. How can I face A again? Time to avoid them for the rest of eternity.”

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        5 months ago

        Do you do that? As I said I really can’t imagine this scenario. I feel like I should… I feel like I’m tunnel visioned or just have VERY little life experience now. Do some ppl really react that way? If yes, why!?

        Everyone I know (and me) will just forget about it in 5s or be thankful. Even you said that B’ll thank them, but I (think…) I can tell the difference between an honest thanks and a fake one.

        Is this some mental health thingy, like anxiety or something? Or “fear of having a friend looking out for you”?