I work a physical/tactile job in healthcare. My job won’t be in danger until robotics dramatically advance and cheapen. AI could conceptually do my job, but the physicality is missing. A lot of healthcare careers are this way. Not all of them are though, so be wise in your choice!

It’s difficult, man. It will probably make you happier if you could just forget about it, but brains don’t work that way. Plus some people just seem to be way better at it than others.

A mildly traumatic thing happened in my workplace. I have plenty of functional days, but other days things return to my brain without my inviting them and it makes it more difficult to function. Sometimes I get transported back into time like I’m there.

One thing I read about is the concept of mental “time traveling”. When we remember these things, it’s like we are literally back in that very moment. But that is not what is happening right at this very moment. You are “safe”. You are not back in time being harmed right now.

Is it wise to not trust her anymore if she has proven herself to be untrustworthy? Absolutely.

But in order to free yourself better, you have to first notice that you are time traveling. Then look at things in your environment. Not her, but try to take in all of the sensory input around you. Remind yourself that you are here, not there. Recognize that the only time that exists is right now. Even one second in the past no longer exists and even one second in the future doesn’t exist yet. Work with what is around you now.

Idk if that is at all helpful, just something that I have read about lately. Way fucking easier said than done because I still struggle.

Wishing you well.

Damn I’m really sorry to hear you don’t like it. :(

What did you do beforehand if you don’t mind me asking?

My mom was a stay at home parent for all of my life. In her early 50s, she ended up going to college in order to become a nurse. Been over 10 years now and she’s still a nurse.

I would say it’s only ever really too late if you’re beyond working age or nearly there. Because at that point you’re no longer working toward a career.

The real issue is whether or not you have finances and a support system to get you there.

In my mom’s case, she had a husband who already was the only breadwinner anyway, so it didn’t cause much of a financial impact per se. My mom ended up taking out student loans like everyone else, of course, but student loans are seen much more favorably than credit card debt.

I have a friend who is going back to college right now in order to get a better job. In their scenario, their parent let them move back in while they get an education.

I ended up eventually going to an intensive grad school where many of us had to move and we also did not have time to work during the program. There, I met plenty of people who already married, already had careers, etc…and yet they still managed to survive and get through the program just fine. (Again, remember we all took out loans lol.)

Then you hear online about med students having children while going through med school and residency. Sounds like hell, but they manage to do it.

But also, the career you seek should be worth it. Don’t go back to school to do one of those dumb “ingegrative studies” degree or whichever one they call it when you couldn’t pick a major lmao. Won’t net you anything.

Similarly, it wouldn’t make sense someone in their 50s to attempt to go to med school. The return on investment is just not there for the amount of effort and loan debt if you consider how many working years you have left. Yet, as I said, it was worth it for my mom to become a nurse because she never worked before and it allowed her to be able to earn a living wage sooner and with less debt. The return on investment for her was greater.

Point is, I don’t think it’s a matter of “too late”, but rather a matter of…

1. Life circumstances
2. The specific career you are working towards

Wow are you me??? Do you identify as asexual? How have you navigated things this way? It’s for me…humans are social animals, right? So I have a very deep need for connection and intimacy…just not of the sexual or romantic kind. So it’s a struggle to be in such a fringe group of seemingly contrasting needs that aren’t compatible with 99% of the world.

Have you ever succeeded in the chemistry part?

So I have a tendency to get multiple hair roots that coalesce into a single bulb. Probably around 3-4 follicles combined into one I think.

That doesn’t sound normal if you are looking for comparisons tbh

I’m confused. How could there possibly be no wires or pipes in between the shared walls?

I guess I could see how you could get away with it in terms of pipes, but wires? If you couldn’t put wires in shared walls, then like 80% of the wall space on your average townhome couldn’t have an outlet. I have plenty of outlets on my shared walls. Pretty sure one of my shared walls has plumbing too because that’s where I had a water leak. Quite frankly there is hardly any additional wall space left for an outlet if the shared walls couldn’t be used for outlets and switches.

That definitely would be a more amusing way to find studs.

It gives very inconsistent readings around the wiring in this wall so it’s difficult for me to determine this sort of thing. I get the manual is just like “try again from further away”, but it still doesn’t make it any easier to figure out where the wires actually are because of the inconsistency.

If that detector is a recent purchase, might want to see if there’s any sort of manual included in the packaging or try looking up a brand name and model number. Most (if not all) that I’ve used have you start by holding the device to the wall to establish a baseline before doing a sweep across the area of interest. I usually try a few spots as the initial calibration point and also tap on the wall to listen for hollow/solid areas to see if the device readings are sane.

Yeah I mean the stud detection part isn’t the issue. That works just fine. It’s the wire thing that has me uneasy. My model works the same as most…hold it against the wall to calibrate and then slowly sweep.

This stack exchange post has some useful tips as well. One specifically mentions touching the wall for grounding to reduce false positives, sounds like it could be related to what you’re seeing. There’s also a suggestion about adding layers of paper to decrease sensitivity so you’re filtering out the weak results that may be another source of false positives.

So I was reading some things about this online which is why I tried the hand thing. The thing is that the manual states for me to NOT put my hand on the surface being scanned. While it makes the warning go away, I’m wondering if it now makes it a false negative.

Unfortunately, there’s not enough info to help without risk of mistake. Do you live in a single home structure or shared(condo, apartment, duplex, etc.)? What’s the age of the structure? Is your breaker panel on either side of the wall you’re working on? Is it an exterior or interior wall?

I live in a townhouse build in 1998, so many shared walls. The breaker panel is an entirely different area of the home. These are interior walls.

When you say stud/wire detector, what do you actually own? There’s no device I know of that combines voltage detection with a stud finder, so I’m guessing your device is a stud finder marketed to also find other buried elements.

I have this model. Sorry. It detects AC wires, not voltage, per se. It is a Zircon HD55.

https://www.zircon.com/tools/studsensor-hd55/

It’s unwise to jump headfirst into a body of water unless you know what lies below. Start slow.

You talk about influencer stuff. I get that being an influencer doesn’t seem to be your sole desire, but I’ll use it as an example anyway. All of the YouTubers I follow didn’t start big. They did YouTube as a part time thing while still holding their main job. It was only to the point where they started really succeeding at YouTube that they dropped their original career.

I say go for it, but start small. Don’t quit your job for this until you start doing really well in it.

Lmaooo maybe that was an intentional look then

So I get that socially in most places it is not acceptable for women to go totally topless. We can argue about double standards, but I’ll let other people do that.

What I actually have noticed is that nowadays in a lot of Western cultures, women can get away with just wearing just a bra with no shirt in public. No, it’s still not being totally topless, but it is a lot better heat-wise than wearing both a bra and then a shirt on top. Just it can’t be like lingerie, but more like a sports bra or something. I’ve done it when heading into a shop after going for a run and not gotten any complains. I see others just occasionally walking around in something a sports bra when it’s hot out, not even relating to intense exercise. Try it.

Not really related, but this is one of the many reasons why I’ve never been able to be in a relationship. I don’t feel that way about others, so faking it feels wrong to me. I went out with a guy a couple of times and felt gross doing that. So that’s about it.

Sometimes it’s frustrating that I can’t have an intimate relationship with someone that way, but what can you do? Have to go through life with the cards you’re dealt, I guess.

Hey I applaud you for putting yourself out there!

I think the fact that you’ve managed to marry and have kids is fantastic. It’s a big social hurtle that a lot of hermits never end up making it with, so you should be very proud of yourself for being vulnerable with another human being like that.

Tbh, I think over time that it ends up quite normal for people as they age to really just have their spouse and kids as their main “friends” without many others externally. So I think you’re doing pretty good on the weirdness and socialization scales haha.

But yeah I totally get you wanting to allow your wife a breather and have some other buddies to share the “social burden” with (I don’t mean it negatively, just not sure how to phrase it).

Best of luck to you!

Thanks! It’s because I’m so cool and popular! ;)

Hope you’re doing better now.

Growing up for me, the popular kids were actually also usually intelligent and got into good universities. So the stereotype of popular kids being dumb really doesn’t ring true everywhere.