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  • I’m sorry to hear that. I’d talk to him for you if I could.

    What happens when you try to talk to him? What did he need your phone for? Or was it just to bully you? Maybe he has difficulties expressing his needs.

    Have you considered learning self defense or finding friends to help?

    It’s really frustrating when adults don’t help. It sucks that you have to help yourself. You should be able to feel safe and not have to worry about this.

    Try relating to your opponent first. Show respect and listen carefully. They might be in a lot of pain and no one is there for them. It’s hard and it will test your patience. Think of it like slowing down a ball of anger rolling down a hill. It’ll just keep going faster and faster until one of you decides to slow it down.

    But after you’ve done that, you should not tolerate someone who keeps ignoring your boundaries, and make a plan to handle the problem. Stay calm inside and don’t hesitate your decisions, and fully commit to your actions.








  • Flip the table. Anger. Disgust. Judgment. Indifference.

    If you want to be nice you can always keep your doors open to resolution. But it makes no sense whatsoever to give away mental and emotional real estate for free to donkeys and assholes. It’s simply too valuable and you should cherish it for yourself.

    You might think indifference is the weakest of what I’ve mentioned. But being ignored is extremely painful. Aurelius wrote that this is the default goto if you don’t have a witty comeback.


  • Yeah it sucks big time. I dated a foreign student once and people would shout crap out of their car and drive off. And when we ate at a restaurant I could have sworn that they made their food too salty to eat on purpose.

    Personally I have sort of experienced a weaker version of it first hand when visiting Poland each time. People wouldn’t serve me at all, or charge ridiculous prices.