Hello,

First of all I don’t really get the actual meaning of “please”. I understand it as it used to make a polite request. However I have rarely seen any westerner saying “please” on either Lemmy, Mastodon or IRC. where I live using “please” (मेहरबानी) is used often.

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    I say it often in my day to day life. I don’t use it much on Lemmy because I rarely ask anyone to do anything on here

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    There’s rarely a use for it online. It’s used to make a request, and a lot of online discourse is making statements.

    Irl, it’s a lot more common

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    “Please” is used more in verbal or formal communication in English. I wouldn’t typically use it when writing a comment here as online comment sections are considered informal written communication. But I would always say it if I was asking a food service worker for something.

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    “Please” is short for “if it pleases you” or “if you please”. It’s used to turn a command into a request. It’s probably not used on Lemmy, etc. because we’re not requesting things of each other a lot.

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      It’s probably not used on Lemmy, etc. because we’re not requesting things of each other a lot.

      Speak for yourself please. Make me a sandwich please

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    People say it in person a lot. Another factor might be that some people view it coming across as either non genuine or passive aggressive in written form.

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    Online discourse tends not to be the kind of place (in the English-speaking world) where “please” is the appropriate response.

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    where I live using “please” (मेहरबानी) is used often.

    Bro where tf are you living 😂

    I’m Indian too and have never come across anyone unironically using that word in daily conversations

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    Online? No. It comes off as snarky.

    In real life, and emails? All the time. Please and thank you.

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    I’m fanatical about saying please and thank you, and it drives me batty that others don’t. Someone offers you a snack, say no thank you, don’t say “no I don’t like those” like a goddamned toddler.

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    In Australia in the aboriginal culture I was raised in, there is no word for please. We never used it growing up

    We have a ward for thank you mah,

    We say thank you but if you have something and can give it and someone asks you are obliged to provide.

    In today’s world this causes many problems with money etc though.